××××This is NOT my anniversary×××× just a post about marriage.
I am not a marriage expert in an any stretch of the imagination, my mom and dad divorced when I was young maybe 3rd grade as I recall. I didn't see what marriage looked like in my formative years, I missed seeing how a husband is suppose to treat a wife on a day to day basis. I realized I lacked a lot in that area, I asked God to show me and he tried when he could get my attention.
One thing I would say to young married people is to be patient with your mate, they come from a different family and a different mini culture within that family. Give them time to develop and then when they do develop and grow give them credit for that growth.
Acknowledge the changes they make and the new person they become over the years. I am so far removed from the socially backward kid I was when we got married I don't even recognize that guy. A trap in marriage is to just "See" your mate as they were not as they are.
So over the course of your life you will have many intimate relationships, the trick in a successful marriage is to make all of those intimate relationships with the same person. Fall in love with the person your mate has become. Let them discover the new you that maturity has created in you and fall madly, passionately in love with "the new you."
One thing I would say that kept us together during hard times is what I call service after the sale. I explain this in a post below. Read it it just might save your marriage when Satan attacks it...and he will.
"I have been married for 36 years I call it "service after the sale". My wife took a risk marrying me I was the king of the nerds and had few prospects or skills. But I have continuously developed. Myself since that day. Every day I look for ways to make her life better and brighter. I want to live in such a way she will be able to say, "I chose well." I came to understand I became a husband in 1984 but I am still "becoming" a husband 3 and a half decades later"
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